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Big D2010-08-09 19:57:44 +0000 #1
If a friend is dating someone you know is wrong for them, would you say something?

When I left after almost 10 years of marriage everyone came out of the woodwork to say "oh yeah, I knew he was this" and "oh yeah, I knew he was that". I really bugged me to know my friends and family didn't stop me from making the biggest mistake of my life. Okay, I got two wonderful sons out of the deal, but I'll have a lifetime of putting up with HIM too. Well at least another 10 years until the youngest is 18.

They're leaving tomorrow for a week of camping. At the last minute came the list of things he needed from my place. The bikes I bought. The helmets I bought. The clothes I bought. He's to friggen cheap to buy his own stuff. He hasn't paid me a dime in 5 years, I've paid for school, hockey, clothes, toys, bday parties, dental bills, you name it. Today I got a letter from Revenue Canada asking me to prove, once again, that the boys are mine. ahhhhh

Time to make this divorce legit and get some money back. Besides, I need the money to upgrade my quad - haha. See I still have a sense of humour. Sigh. Thanks for letting me vent.

D

P.S. I made everyone promise that when I started dating again, they'd tell me honestly if the new guy seemed wrong. I hope I can count on them this time.


phreebsd2010-08-09 20:04:41 +0000 #2
i hope you can too
FABMAN2010-08-09 20:05:11 +0000 #3
Your friends most likely did tell you he was bad for ya.

You just didn't want to hear it!!!!!!!!!!!!!! love makes us blind.

I had the same hearing loss not long ago! and my friends flat out told me not to get married to her! Heck its on tape! Your friends may not of been that blunt but i bet it was there.

Its not whether you can count on your friends its are you listening now!
lg07brute2010-08-09 21:11:54 +0000 #4
Never beem married but have gotten the "I TOLD YA SO!" speech. Funny how the opposite sex can sometimes make us blind for a while. Then all the sudden its like "Dam, what the **** is wrong with me? I'm not doin this anymore." Happy i got some sense knocked into me before it was too late.
Polaris4252010-08-09 21:00:16 +0000 #5
I wouldnt give him sh*t for the camping trip.
phreebsd2010-08-09 21:04:38 +0000 #6
Quote:

Originally Posted by FABMAN

Your friends most likely did tell you he was bad for ya.

You just didn't want to hear it!!!!!!!!!!!!!! love makes us blind.

I had the same hearing loss not long ago! and my friends flat out told me not to get married to her! Heck its on tape! Your friends may not of been that blunt but i bet it was there.

Its not whether you can count on your friends its are you listening now!

You arent talking about the oil changer are you?
hondarecoveryman2010-08-09 21:42:58 +0000 #7
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Originally Posted by Polaris425

I wouldnt give him sh*t for the camping trip.

I would have ....just so my kids could have fun , not him . Send one tent and two bikes make his sorry *** walk
RDWD2010-08-09 22:11:38 +0000 #8
I hear ya Big D, by the way does the "Big D" stand for goin thru the big D and don't mean Dallas. I hope you have found someone or will soon who will treat you well. Those past mistakes make us appreciate the good things even more. Good luck.
cojack2010-08-09 23:21:14 +0000 #9
well my feelings probably won't help but here it goes.

I have four kids and 2 ex's i pay the child support ( which i am more then glad to suppoort my children) and pay there insurance and have for 13 full years but for one of my ex's to ask which they have for something i have for the kids...well lets just say i used to let them take what they needed but when the stuff started not returning i stopped doing it. including clothes..i have clothes for them and the ex's do when they come to my home they leave with what they brought and it goes the other way too. (oh make that dead beat(dad) pay for those children he helped bring into this world) i wish u the best, i would make him pay!
Big D2010-08-09 23:19:11 +0000 #10
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Originally Posted by Polaris425

I wouldnt give him sh*t for the camping trip.

Don't get me wrong, I'm glad they're going camping. The boys really enjoy that time away from the city.... with their Dad. I'm just po'd because he keeps taking stuff from my house. His comment is that it's the boys stuff, not specific to the house. Last year when he took David's bike he damaged it, but wouldn't fix it. One of these day I'm going to ask him if he wanted to pick up their beds from my place next time they go to his house.
Big D2010-08-09 22:57:17 +0000 #11
Quote:

Originally Posted by FABMAN

Your friends most likely did tell you he was bad for ya.

You just didn't want to hear it!!!!!!!!!!!!!! love makes us blind.

I had the same hearing loss not long ago! and my friends flat out told me not to get married to her! Heck its on tape! Your friends may not of been that blunt but i bet it was there.

Its not whether you can count on your friends its are you listening now!

Actually no one said anything. When I asked why, they justified it by saying that I was obviously in love, wouldn't listen to the criticism and possibly hate them as a result of their comments. I'd like to think not but they may be right.

It's funny, I did meet someone a few years ago. He made the trip with me to Wpg to meet the crew. As we were pulling into Winnipeg he said "so what are you going to do when your family says they don't like me?" You know, I'm not sure what I would have done. I was already hooked. Fortunately they like him. I hang out with my ex's brother and he approves too so I guess I chose well. I like to think he did too. Heck I'm 20 years older than I was then, so hopefully I learned something.

Thanks to everyone for the comments. It's unfortunate that so many people have to go through this. Now that I've told everyone on this site, I guess I really have to follow through now eh?

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